January 28, 2018

Adjusting Focus

The case against "focusing on me"



At several points in my life my friends and I have gone through a "you know, I really just want to focus on me, right now," phase, and it usually always comes after a pretty crappy experience. It's empowering to shut out distractions to power yourself forward to achieve your goals in the wake of of pain, disappointment, and general unpleasantness—and let's be real, we deal with a lot of unpleasantness.

"The right people will assist you, help you flourish, support you. The right goals will push you, challenge you, keep you motivated."

All that said, I found that completely focusing on myself actually never helped me in the way that I hoped it would. After much introspection and wondering why I hadn't become a successful millionaire overnight, I realized "focusing on me" was never  the fix. And that's because the issue was never that I spent my time focusing on people and not my own goals or well-being. It was that I focused on the wrong people and the wrong goals.

The right people will assist you, help you flourish, support you. The right goals will push you, challenge you, keep you motivated. I’m grateful that I have people in my life who ask me about my goals, my dreams, because they support me "focusing on me." We don't have to shut ourselves off from the world, as miserable as the world can be, to do great things, and I think that's just beautiful, baby.



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